Ok! We have all had those days where nothing goes right! The house is a disaster, the yard needs tending, the children are all sick at once, and company is on their way over for dinner…. Or maybe it does not even need to be that extreme for you, perhaps just simply dishes left out on the counter or the laundry not put away. What does it take to set you off?
My family has seen me at my worst and at my best. My worst being when my head spins around on my neck and I talk in that deep angry, sort of scratchy voice that sounds like it came out of some horror movie. OK! Maybe it’s not that bad, but bottom line is we all have our buttons that when pushed, can send us over the edge.
I remember an especially bad day when all 3 of my children were still living at home, (I have 2 left at home now) I was going off on my children in that voice from out of the horror movie when the phone rang. I immediately picked it up and turned into that loving wonderful person that everyone sees when I am outside my house and said in the most pleasant voice, “Hello this is the Miller residence, how can I help you?”
Boy, how quickly we can turn it on and off? Oh! we blame it on PMS or maybe being of some ethnic race that is known for a bad temper, and worst yet… if my family would just ______! You can fill in the blank of the unmet expectations. But yet we have the power when it might be embarrassing to us, to turn it off, to present a pleasant family atmosphere in the presence of others.
We have all heard the saying “If momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy”. That famous saying alone should make us realize how powerful we are as women in our homes.
We have incredible powers that can be used for good or evil.
We all have had the days like described above, (unless maybe your Mrs. Duggar). But if you think about it, we also have the power to change our atmosphere with the words we speak. We are atmosphere changers!
I dare you to just be aware of the mood you are in, in your house and watch what happens.
25 Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “ Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
And let her own works praise her in the gates.
As woman we are amazing, we can cook a meal, do laundry, care for 6 children, clean the house and change the oil in the car, all at the same time without blinking.
God has given most of us the ability to multi-task, we are like the latest and greatest computers that can handle 15 different things at one time, where most men are more like filing cabinets and can only focus on one thing at a time.
I realize sometimes under all the hats that we wear, we are bound to feel the stress and pressure. What I want to purpose is how we handle that pressure. I believe if we put the scripture to use and follow what it says. Take a deep breath and think before we speak. We can have a more pleasant home to live in. OK! Maybe we will never be the “June Cleavers” of our day. But, personally this is something the Lord has been speaking to me about and as I have practiced this concept over the past several months with my family, I am amazed as I have seen the tension in my moods reflect to my kids and my husband. But when I approach something in a pleasant and calm matter it reflects to my family as well. I want the new saying in my home to be, “Because Momma is Happy, Everybody is Happy”.
That doesn’t mean that we are not going to have times of discipline and disappointment, but I think what I have had to do is ask myself in what attitude am I going to respond in. A firm hand can still be given in calm voice. It is all about the attitude in which we approach an issue.
1 A soft answer turns away wrath,
But a harsh word stirs up anger.
2 The tongue of the wise uses knowledge rightly,
But the mouth of fools pours forth foolishness.
3 The eyes of the LORD are in every place,
Keeping watch on the evil and the good.
4 A wholesome tongue is a tree of life,
But perverseness in it breaks the spirit.
5 A fool despises his father’s instruction,
But he who receives correction is prudent.
6 In the house of the righteous there is much treasure,
But in the revenue of the wicked is trouble.
7 The lips of the wise disperse knowledge,
But the heart of the fool does not do so.
13 A merry heart makes a cheerful countenance,
But by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken.
14 The heart of him who has understanding seeks knowledge,
But the mouth of fools feeds on foolishness.
18 A wrathful man stirs up strife,
But he who is slow to anger allays contention.
28 The heart of the righteous studies how to answer,
But the mouth of the wicked pours forth evil.
33 The fear of the LORD is the instruction of wisdom,
And before honor is humility.
We’ve got the “POWER” the question is “How are we going to use it?